Saturday, April 17, 2010
Biggest Loser Revelations
I watched episode 12 last night from the BL. I was struck by the revelation that Sunshine had about being immeshed with her father. It seems part of the reason Sunshine got to the size she was when she joined the show, was indeed her relationship with her father. They are close, so close that he just couldn't let her go to be her own person. Inside that fat girl is a beautiful butterfly waiting to fly. He adores his daughter and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that, in fact really wonderful in many regards. Problem is when we hold on too tight. We prevent our children from being released to be who they were meant to be. Sunshine's father didn't want his daughter to go away. He was afraid his beautiful girl couldn't stand on her own. Being fat kept them together and insulated from others. Losing the weight on this show has given way to revelations for Sunshine. She has gained confidence and can see that she can stand on her own. She wants this for herself and quite beautifully, her father understands that his daughter must now make her own way. I was awed by the love the two of these people share. They are amazing people, but you know, not unlike so many of us. What is it that keeps us from emerging as the beautiful butterfly we really are? When will we break free from the ca coon of fat we are in? Will we allow ourselves to love us that much? It takes courage. I am a work in progress. I want to believe in myself the way Sunshine is starting to believe.